Friday, July 27, 2012

The Alchemy of Creating Your Reality

To create a new reality, change what you are paying attention to.


Our lives are an aggregate of what we've been paying attention to up until now. There are some subconscious underlying factors, but through awareness, we can alter these as well

I'll provide various focus points as a framework to give you ideas, either beyond what you've already thought of, or, a deeper level of understanding of what you think and feel. You've already begun thinking more deeply about where you're placing your attention, the ball just started rolling, there's so much more (powerful experience) ahead.

THE QUESTION I'm most often asked is: "What do you mean I created this?"  Well, if you're fearful about something in your life or of going forward in some area(s), or you're paying attention to the absence of what you want, you are placing valuable energy into the vibration of that very fear with your thoughts and feelings. That fear or lack will increase, by virtue of your attention to it, and more of it is magnetized to you... until you stop feeding it. Think of your thoughts and feelings as magnets and the physical expression of them as steel.

IT ONLY TAKES LITTLE SHIFTS in attention, deligently practiced, to experience what you really want. Move your attention toward what will serve and support you and your dreams. Once you begin manifesting your dreams, you'll want more, it doesn't stop. That's the nature of life, you, expansion

REALITY (the state of being actual or real) is subjective. [Taking place within the mind and modified by individual bias]. It is a reality that there are many people who live in poverty and it is a reality that despite economic factors, many people thrive financially. Which is true?  Both are true, and everything in between, they are all reality.  There are as many realities as there are individuals

BE IN SYNC WITH YOUR DESIRES: Creating reality is about attending to preferences that are in alignment with what you desire.  You Most all of us have heard the definition of insanity as doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Isn't that what you're doing when you consistently worry and then wonder why you're not living your dream life? You create your reality either by unconscious default or conscious decision that is what as expression of your authentic self. Since your mind cannot hold two thoughts simultaneously, you may as well start choosing the thoughts and feelings that support your wanted reality.

YOUR ATTENTION IS YOUR RUDDER.  The energy of the thoughts you think and the emotions you feel is your indicator as to where your ship is sailing. With just a few reminders to direct your attention, consciously and deliberately, you will know you are in control of your life. Your life is your universe, your world. What you choose to have as part of your world is completely your part, and how it shows up or unfolds into your physical manifestation is the universe's job. It is absolutely a co-creative process.

THE ABC'S TO EXPANSION®, is a program I created over ten years ago that has been helping my clients to use their minds and bodies, by developing a personal lexicon unique to their individual dreams that help them manifest their desires. With this process they all say they don't get 'lost' anymore.  Or if they do, it's a very short duration, they can get back on track quickly.

HERE'S MY PROCESS: Working with new associations for each letter of the alphabet gives you s a greater framework with which to create more deliberately.  As kids, when we learned the alphabet, A stood for Apple. In fact, all the letters were taught using association with objects, perfect for our age to learn to use associations so we could be on the same page to communicate with others. Thing is, we were never taught how to create our own alphabet, unique and individual. When you create this new alphabet, based on what's going on within you, you begin associating each letter with the state of being that you want to activate. Notice the difference between an object (Apple) and a state of being (Awareness). As the discerning, intelligent and highly creative adult that you are, wouldn't it be to your advantage to redefine those very basic associations you have about your desires (usually associations from others we've acquiesced to) to ones that will help you re-create a life more befitting the life you imagine for yourself?  Of course! Staying sick will not make someone else well and staying poor will not make someone else richer. You can use your creative mind and your ability to feel sensations in your body to your advantage;
play with new associations that will empower you.

HERE'S AN EXAMPLE: I remember when I was in grade school, I had a line in a play that I completely forgot, then I started crying.  I cried a lot for reasons I had no idea. For years, when I thought of speaking in front of people (not just groups, but most anyone in authority), I felt a knot in the pit of my stomach, I had to fight back tears and just felt generally miserable and small. Years later, after I studied and became a Master Hypnotist, I began to see the hidden subconscious programs running behind the scenes. After years of working with other, I realized we all needed our own individual way of handling the upsets and mis-qualified energy that stood in our way.  Hypnosis was great, yet more importantly, my fascination with how the mind works made me ask better questions of myself. I 'cleared' much of my apprehension with speaking in public to sustain my business, but at the time it was purely a survival issue, I had to keep my business going.  So when I realized we all needed our own inner language to expand, I knew it had to start with what we were familiar with. Voila! the alphabet.  Using my ABC'S TO EXPANSION® I quickly saw the benefits.  A little practice and any issue could be transformed.  So with my new expansive 'alphabet,' I transformed all the misqualified energy around speaking and found my true voice.  I may get nervous/excited before I speak, but it feel great.  I went from trepidation to exhilaration... a very good thing!

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

5 STEPS TO "TURN ON" YOUR INNER CONFIDENCE

There is nothing more attractive than confidence. If you admire the confidence others exude, here are 5 Steps to "Turn On" your inner confidence so you can exude that confidence naturally in your outer world.

I use the word 'exude' because that's what takes place when inner confidence is strong... it is projected abundantly, it radiates from within and goes outward.  Having the desire for confidence means you have the ability within, it's just currently dormant.

Confidence is one of the aspects of self you already own.  If you're not experiencing it, you just haven't accessed it fully. With this in mind, as you go through the following steps, feel what comes up for you as you allow yourself to access what's already within you.

1. BEGIN WHERE YOU ARE and use what you have. You have thoughts, feelings and the ability to use your mind's eye. It's good news that you want to express the confidence you admire in others. True confidence is knowing how to use your thoughts and feelings to your advantage rather than succumbing to the lower energies that bring up your doubt and negative self talk. When you're not feeling confident, let that be a trigger to change the thought you're thinking to one that gives you a boost.  Practice this, diligently (for even a day), test it, prove it to yourself.


2. REFRAME SELF-SABOTAGE.  When we lack confidence, the feeling is usually an aspect of sadness.  Let's do a little reframing here. When you feel sad, let it be time to use the SADD technique: Suspend All Doubt and Disbelief.  When you suspend your self doubt and disbelief in yourself, you can "act as if" you are confident, this help you to get used to what confidence feels like.  To acat as if is not faking it until you make it; it is literally training yourself. Like physical exercise, your feeling muscles must be exercised to enjoy the benefit. Practicing this SADD technique installs the sensations of confidence in your cellular memory. The more you practice, the quicker you access confidence when needed and soon it will come more swiftly.

3. THINK & FEEL Confidence. Notice how often your thoughts are 'anti-confident'. Simply by virtue of being alive and in any proximity to other human beings, we've learned though many experiences to be critical of ourselves. Our "critical mind" gets in the way and becomes a default mechanism that runs in the background, critiquing and ready to jump on any new, positive thought that pops up by default. The good news is that this can change more easily than you think by using your intention (thought) and sensation (feeling). Intend to be confident in this moment, then notice the sensation of this intention in your body (feeling).

The more you focus your attention on which thoughts you're paying attention to, the easier and more quickly you'll be able to recognize and replace the negative, unsupportive thoughts with positive, confidence building thinking. With your attention, you begin to fine-tune your thoughts in a way that allows only more like thoughts to enter your mind. Each successful thought and feeling builds upon the one before it, it's exponential and expands.

Adding sensations to the mix consciously will speed your ability to access the confidence you want to have. Every time you have a feeling of being 'less than,' are you fueling self-doubt or self-confidence? Feel the difference between can and can't.  "Can't" will stop you in your tracks; "Can" will open you to possibility and empower you.

If you can remember only one experience in your life when you've actually felt any level of confidence at all, activate (focus on) that feeling. If you can't remember such an experience, imagine one and then, "act as if.'  Then keep bringing up more and more feelings intentionally.  The more you feel it, the more you'll feel it, and so will others. You'll soon be the one others are attracted to simply because you've accessed your inner confidence with practice so often that it just exudes from you.

4. SEE Confidence. Using your mind's eye, visualize yourself as confident. Begin collecting confident feelings by practicing seeing yourself as confident. When you use your imagination in this way, your imagination muscle strengthens ~ the more you see a confident image of yourself, the more quickly it matches the accurate view of your true self.  Our minds work in images, so use your confidence images diligently and consistently.

5. 'BE' Confidence.   Confidence is a vibrational expression of what you think, feel, and visualize. Being what you believe is confidence allows you to attract more and more like thoughts, feelings, and experiences to yourself.  Be excited as your newly activated experiences of confidence unfold for you.

After acting on these five steps, with a bit of attention and practice, your confidence will no longer be dormant; through your intention, you will have turned it on.  And sooner than you think, your confidence will be simply another wonderful expression of you that naturally attracts more of the same... with wonderful experiences unfolding.